Being a Mualaf
16:49In the name of Allah , the Entirely Merciful, the Especially Merciful.
Assalamualaikum to all,
How is everyone doing? inshaAllah great by the blessings of Allah SWT. I recently read a post from one of my favourite writer and she is a revert too! I have attached the link for all of you to read it. unfortunately it is in Malay language and I think you can turn on the translation to English if your reading it in Google Chrome..
http://pukullima.blogspot.com/2009/12/yuck-daging-babi.html
What she wrote is about the dilemma that almost all the revert are going through. It is different if you would compare to those in the west but in the east, the family unit is quite orthodox here and this are the main reason for those reverts to live in the shadow and not being upfront about their reversion. just briefly here....
"You may think why don't those reverts inform their parents..
Well that's because most of them are still studying in schools and colleges and still living under their parents because of the need of money for tuition fees and even for themselves.
So, when will they inform their family?...
Not sure..sooner or later cos their are still figuring out the means to inform their family. Some of them don't want to lose their parents because they will get furious. Some are waiting for the right time because their parents might be old and sick and shocking confessions like this might end up in worst case situation.
How will they live as a Muslim if their parents are not aware of it?
If you've already embrace Islam,things should be told. Illegal non-halal food, Obligatory prayers, fasting during Ramadan, The women's aurah
What is their status then?...
That is the problem. You are born as a Muslim, you do not discover their problems converting to Islam. Those who we call 'closet Muslim' for not declaring it. They dare to revert to Islam after learning Islam and truly believe that Islam is the religion of truth, and they may have threats by their families to end college funding terminated / uni if their families know. There are more and more of them, but because there are not yet signed up as Muslims in the Islamic religious department, we have no data. Can not be detected unless they themselves tell."
In terms of performing salat, till today I had to sneak when I perform my prayers. sometimes I need to skip my prayers and when it comes to food, I need to take extra precaution when it comes to the food that is being prepared at home. It is not easy especially when your parents notice your changes and things that your abnormal instead of thinking positively about it.
What the Muslim community think is that, maybe some NGO should help these reverts but the truth is you are their brothers and sisters, you are their family, you all belong in the same ummah, so who is the one suppose to help them? don't burden them with what is halal and haram but instead educate them, encourage them and be there for them. Like one of the brother who commented below the post, a revert is like a baby. Do you burden the baby to start walking and eating and talking? no! you make them take small steps and encourage them. if you really cant reach out to them and help them, then make du'a for them so that Allah would ease things for them.
But instead things were happening the other way around. Muslims asking the reverts to make du'a for them because we are the new born baby and our du'a is more powerful. What is that? Since when does Allah differ in hearing to du'as?
These reverts has declared themselves as a Muslim. They have strengthen their aqeedah and what left is just the practise that their trying to learn and get use to
Be a support system to each other
"O you who have believed, if you support Allah , He will support you and plant firmly your feet." (Muhammad 47:7)
Waalaikummusalam warahmatullah ~
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